When Writing Is Hard

How to Rephrase Your Self Talk to Boost Your Writer’s Confidence

Filed in When Writing Is Hard by on June 13, 2017 4 Comments • views: 740
How to Rephrase Your Self Talk to Boost Your Writer’s Confidence

We all know that negative self-talk can be destructive. Most of us are much meaner to ourselves than we ever would be to a friend. When a story is rejected we privately bash our own writing ability. When we fail to stick with our writing commitments, we bemoan our own lack of discipline. “You’re so […]

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How to Survive the Emotional Turbulence of the Writing Life

Filed in When Writing Is Hard by on April 17, 2017 4 Comments • views: 1670
How to Survive the Emotional Turbulence of the Writing Life

In a recent Writing and Wellness survey, I asked readers to share with me some of their biggest struggles when it comes to managing the writing life. One of the answers I received from several participants was that they needed help managing the “emotional roller-coaster.” More specifically, they didn’t want to feel so “emotionally tossed […]

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Root Out Hidden Writer’s Anxiety to Restore Creativity

Filed in The Inner Life, When Writing Is Hard by on April 3, 2017 4 Comments • views: 1423
Root Out Hidden Writer’s Anxiety to Restore Creativity

A friend of mine wasn’t getting her writing done. It had been over a month since she’d made any progress, or even sat down to focus on the work. It was her second novel and for a long time she was really in the zone with it, but then she found out that her first […]

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How to Keep Writing When Others Stomp on Your Dreams

Filed in When Writing Is Hard, Who Supports Your Writing Dreams? by on March 6, 2017 7 Comments • views: 1860
How to Keep Writing When Others Stomp on Your Dreams

In a recent Writing and Wellness survey, I asked respondents to share their biggest writing challenges. One answer in particular broke my heart. The writer explained that a bad relationship had left her with the nagging feeling that her writing would never be “good enough.” She had left the relationship behind, but was still haunted […]

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How to Overcome Unique Challenges as a Highly Sensitive Writer

Filed in When Writing Is Hard by on February 20, 2017 1 Comment • views: 1909
How to Overcome Unique Challenges as a Highly Sensitive Writer

Are you “highly sensitive?” Do you know what “highly sensitive” is? I didn’t until I read The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine N. Aron. Wow. What an eye-opener. If you’ve ever been told that you’re “too sensitive” and you haven’t read this book, I highly recommend you do. If you’ve read it and you know […]

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How to Get Out of the “I Don’t Want to Write” Funk

Filed in When Writing Is Hard by on January 31, 2017 10 Comments • views: 1499
How to Get Out of the “I Don’t Want to Write” Funk

Everything’s been going along great. You’ve been writing, producing more and more work, and perhaps even publishing and selling. You’ve received good comments from readers, maybe good reviews, maybe even some recognition in contests. In other words, things have been fine, but all of a sudden, in the words of the great Righteous Brothers song, […]

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When Writers Should Ignore “Be Positive” Advice

Filed in When Writing Is Hard by on January 23, 2017 12 Comments • views: 1611
When Writers Should Ignore “Be Positive” Advice

A friend of mind got a rejection the other day. She’d worked really hard on the story, putting it through numerous edits. The journal was one she’d read and admired for years. It was a big blow. I tried to console her, but she wouldn’t really allow it. “Nah, I’m fine,” she said overly cheerfully. […]

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What Rejection Does to a Writer—and How to Recover

Filed in When Writing Is Hard by on January 16, 2017 15 Comments • views: 2134
What Rejection Does to a Writer—and How to Recover

Grow a thick skin, they say. If you’re going to be a writer, you gotta toughen up. People are going to criticize your work. Agents and editors are going to reject you. Readers will impale you with bad reviews. Publishers will turn their backs if your sales are lackluster. Rejection awaits at every turn, so […]

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12 Experienced Writers on How to Overcome Self-Doubt

Filed in When Writing Is Hard by on December 19, 2016 0 Comments • views: 1224
12 Experienced Writers on How to Overcome Self-Doubt

After interviewing over 100 writers on this site over the last couple of years, I’ve learned one thing: We all struggle with self-doubt. This one emotion can destroy a writing career. It makes us question ourselves. It stifles creativity. It makes us hesitate rather than take action toward our goals. We may all experience self-doubt, […]

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10 Experienced Writers on the Power of Gratitude

Filed in The Writing Life, When Writing Is Hard by on November 21, 2016 2 Comments • views: 1736
10 Experienced Writers on the Power of Gratitude

If there’s one thing that can counteract the emotional ups and downs of the writing life, it’s gratitude. I shared the many benefits of being grateful in another post, “How a Writer Can Save her Sanity Even in the Worst of Times.” As a quick recap, practicing regular gratitude has shown in studies to help […]

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Why Writers Feel Depressed and How to Deal

Filed in When Writing Is Hard by on November 8, 2016 1 Comment • views: 2407
Why Writers Feel Depressed and How to Deal

by Patty Somlo From my experience, depression results from denying feelings, such as sadness and anger. Writers have to walk a tightrope between hope and acceptance, success and rejection. Every writer, no matter how well-published, good or experienced, will have work rejected or reviewed negatively. I follow one of my former creative writing teachers on […]

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Do Nightmares Make Writers More Creative?

Filed in Boost Creativity, When Writing Is Hard by on October 24, 2016 8 Comments • views: 1508
Do Nightmares Make Writers More Creative?

When I was a kid, I used to wake up, terrified, on the floor in my room. After I realized where I was, I would experience a flood of relief, followed by an intense fear of going back to sleep. I could remember my nightmares vividly, vicious, violent experiences where I was chased by strange […]

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